Maintaining Good Verbal Communications
The words we speak have a great effect on where we will spend eternity. God explicitly tells us in Matthew 15:11 Not that which goeth into the mouth defileth a man; but that which cometh out of the mouth, this defileth a man. And in Matthew 15:18 But those things which proceed out of the mouth come forth from the heart; and they defile the man. God is telling us that when we speak we are portraying the true intents of the heart and mind, or we are saying what we really think and believe.
God said in Ephesians 4:29 that we need to filter out verbal thoughts and actions. We are indeed responsible for what we utter out loud. Ephesians 4:29 Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers.
Here in the book of Mark, we also read that all evil things we speak and do are from Satan Mark 7:20 And he said, That which cometh out of the man, that defileth the man. (21) For from within, out of the heart of men, proceed evil thoughts, adulteries, fornications, murders, (22) Thefts, covetousness, wickedness, deceit, lasciviousness, an evil eye, blasphemy, pride, foolishness: (23) All these evil things come from within, and defile the man.
We read in James 1:26 If any man among you seem to be religious, and bridleth not his tongue, but deceiveth his own heart, this man's religion is vain. This plainly speaks of the power of spoken words. If anyone is or claims to be religious, but can’t hold their tongue or mouth from speaking wrong or evil things, then they have not been over taken by the Holy Spirit. For it is the Holy Spirit from within that controls our thoughts and speech.
This is made plain in James 3:8 But the tongue can no man tame; it is an unruly evil, full of deadly poison. In James it states that we, in ourselves, have no power over our speech which is full of evil thought continually. However, once we are truly saved, we can rely on the Holy Spirit to act as a filter. He filters our thoughts and actions, as well as our speech. Just because we live in the day of grace, this does not give us the freedom to sin. Grace is not an excuse to sin, but it is the power not to sin!
One interesting point to make is that your spoken words, the words you speak out loud, have power. Even with God, it says in Genesis 1:3 and God said…., take notice it does not say, and God thought, but he actually spoke the words and it happened. Whenever possible we should speak with our voices when talking to God.
Another type of verbal communication which is not from God is swearing. Swearing is very common place in today’s society. Although most people are accustomed to this vile type of speech, we can be sure that God is not. Many think that if you use the name of God in vain that you will be accepted and be part of the “in” crowd. But God says in Exodus 20:7 Thou shalt not take the name of the LORD thy God in vain; for the LORD will not hold him guiltless that taketh his name in vain.
We read in Jeremiah that there is a penalty for such behavior, Jeremiah 23:10 For the land is full of adulterers; for because of swearing the land mourneth; the pleasant places of the wilderness are dried up, and their course is evil, and their force is not right.
Psalms 139:4 For there is not a word in my tongue, but, lo, O LORD, thou knowest it altogether. Here in this versus of scripture we are told that God knows the very thoughts of our speech. This means that every word we speak God knows what we meant by the words spoken. It does no good to try to deceive God for our life is open and naked before him.
Saying things like "you know where you can go" is not hid before God, for He know the very intents and thoughts of the heart. Hebrews 4:12 For the word of God is quick, and powerful, and sharper than any twoedged sword, piercing even to the dividing asunder of soul and spirit, and of the joints and marrow, and is a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart.
If we follow God Word in our speaking, we would take to heart Titus 2:8 Sound speech, that cannot be condemned; that he that is of the contrary part may be ashamed, having no evil thing to say of you. Sound or healing doctrine. Human nature is in a state of disease; and the doctrine of the Gospel is calculated to remove the disease, and restore all to perfect health and soundness. All false doctrines leave men under the influence of this spiritual disease; the unadulterated doctrine of the Gospel alone can heal men.
Titus 2:8 goes hand in glove with Ephesians 4:29 Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers. The things that we speak should always edify God. God should be the primary thoughts in our mind and in our speech. If we are truly saved our speech will reflect the presence of the Holy Spirit.
Lying is another form of communications which we speak. Take notice that God places a lot of emphasis and the importance of not lying. In order to tell a lie you are normally speaking to someone. We are told in Revelation 21:8 But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death. If you fit into any one of the above categories, it's time to take stock of your actions.
Psalms 101:7 He that worketh deceit shall not dwell within my house: he that telleth lies shall not tarry in my sight.
How should we Speak:
Do not speak any evil communication, 1Corinthians 15:33 Be not deceived: evil communications corrupt good manners.
We are to "put off" or refrain from filthy speech, reading in Colossians 3:8 But now ye also put off all these; anger, wrath, malice, blasphemy, filthy communication out of your mouth.
** Note all references are taken from the King James Version.